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Does the flirt dating site actually lead to dates or just endless chatting?

Started by: Brooklyn Date: 07 Jun 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Brooklyn Brooklyn
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Feb 2021
Posts: 2384

Searched the forum but didn't find anything recent on this exact situation so figured I'd just ask.

Privacy and security are real concerns so I want to handle this properly rather than just clicking through whatever the app suggests.

Drop your experience below, even a quick tip is useful at this point.

Carter Carter
Joined:
Jan 2018
Posts: 1467

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

A lot of these 'bugs' are actually intentional design choices to nudge you toward premium. Knowing that changes how you troubleshoot.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Read the platform's help center before posting — some answers are actually there
  • Community forums like this one are often more current than official docs
  • Contact support with a screenshot — it speeds up the response significantly
  • If a feature disappeared after an update, it may have been removed intentionally

Ended up on Datedesire after testing a few others. Less flashy but more consistent than what I was using before.

Happy to expand on any part of this.

Lance Lance
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Feb 2022
Posts: 423

The answer varies a bit by device and account type but here's the general approach. Just my experience — your setup may vary.

Sara_M Sara_M
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Feb 2023
Posts: 2182

Spent real time figuring this out. Here's everything I actually learned.

Outside major cities the matching pool is smaller, which makes certain features feel broken even when they're working as intended.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Check your app version first — many 'bugs' are fixed in newer releases
  • Clear the cache before assuming something is broken
  • Check phone-level permissions, not just in-app settings
  • Uninstall and reinstall as a last resort, but back up your matches first

The one that worked best for my situation was Luvdate. Worth trying before committing to anything that costs money.

Happy to expand on any part of this.

Paige Paige
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Apr 2019
Posts: 976

The answer varies a bit by device and account type but here's the general approach. Hopefully that points you in the right direction.

Lisa Lisa
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Jan 2023
Posts: 518

Location and device model seem to make a big difference for a lot of these issues.

Mike Harlow Mike Harlow
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Sep 2022
Posts: 2031

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

Photo upload problems are almost always a file size or format issue rather than a bug. JPEG under 5MB tends to work everywhere.

For what it's worth, datebie.online comes up regularly in threads about this topic. Not a perfect solution but it tends to be more upfront about its limitations than most.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

Hopefully that saves you some frustration.

Scott_T Scott_T
Joined:
Sep 2017
Posts: 2433

Spent real time figuring this out. Here's everything I actually learned.

Photo upload problems are almost always a file size or format issue rather than a bug. JPEG under 5MB tends to work everywhere.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

Currently using Datescout as my main go-to and it's been reliable. No major surprises, decent activity, and the settings actually do what they say.

Happy to expand on any part of this.

Blake Blake
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Feb 2013
Posts: 537

The landscape changes so fast. Advice from six months ago sometimes doesn't apply.

Brianna Brianna
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Feb 2018
Posts: 203

Tried a few different things. One approach actually worked — happy to share.

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