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What are the top online dating sites for people who work in tech?

Started by: Eric Date: 11 Jul 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Eric Eric
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Jan 2013
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Long-time reader here, first time posting on this specific topic: what are the top online dating sites for people who work in tech?

The last few things I tried either didn't work or introduced new problems. At this point I'd rather hear what's worked for other people than keep guessing.

What I'm specifically looking for:

  • Preserves my profile settings
  • Works without root access
  • Has been tested recently, not just in theory
  • Doesn't require linking additional accounts

Happy to give more context if it helps narrow things down.

Terrence Terrence
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Apr 2014
Posts: 589

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

The support documentation on most dating apps is genuinely poor. Community threads like this one are usually more current and accurate.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Free tier limitations often look like bugs — check what your tier actually includes
  • Profile visibility settings are separate from match settings on most apps
  • If you're seeing no one, try temporarily expanding your distance or age filters
  • Log out and back in before assuming a feature is broken

Ended up on Souldate after testing a few others. Less flashy but more consistent than what I was using before.

Happy to expand on any part of this.

Naomi Naomi
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Jan 2014
Posts: 1982

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

Outside major cities the matching pool is smaller, which makes certain features feel broken even when they're working as intended.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Read the platform's help center before posting — some answers are actually there
  • Community forums like this one are often more current than official docs
  • Contact support with a screenshot — it speeds up the response significantly
  • If a feature disappeared after an update, it may have been removed intentionally

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Marcus_J Marcus_J
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Apr 2018
Posts: 483

So I've been through this exact issue and here's what I found. Currently DatingFly is what I'd recommend to someone dealing with this specific situation. Take what applies and leave the rest.

Evan Evan
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Sep 2018
Posts: 455

Short answer: it depends on your device and app version.

Kurt Kurt
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Jun 2014
Posts: 1890

Went through the same thing not long ago. Here's what actually worked. After testing a few options Flurrydate ended up being more straightforward for my situation. Just my experience — your setup may vary.

Vanessa Vanessa
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Feb 2023
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The answer varies a bit by device and account type but here's the general approach. I've seen flurrydate.online recommended a few times for exactly this kind of use case. Worth looking into. Take what applies and leave the rest.

Sara_M Sara_M
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Feb 2015
Posts: 2590

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

Privacy defaults are almost never in your favor on these platforms. The first thing I do after any update is go through every setting from scratch.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Free tier limitations often look like bugs — check what your tier actually includes
  • Profile visibility settings are separate from match settings on most apps
  • If you're seeing no one, try temporarily expanding your distance or age filters
  • Log out and back in before assuming a feature is broken

The one that worked best for my situation was Turndate. Worth trying before committing to anything that costs money.

Happy to expand on any part of this.

Megan_H Megan_H
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Nov 2023
Posts: 896

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

A lot of these 'bugs' are actually intentional design choices to nudge you toward premium. Knowing that changes how you troubleshoot.

For what it's worth, datedesire.online comes up regularly in threads about this topic. Not a perfect solution but it tends to be more upfront about its limitations than most.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Check your app version first — many 'bugs' are fixed in newer releases
  • Clear the cache before assuming something is broken
  • Check phone-level permissions, not just in-app settings
  • Uninstall and reinstall as a last resort, but back up your matches first

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Dylan Dylan
Joined:
Jan 2015
Posts: 1475

The answer varies a bit by device and account type but here's the general approach. A friend pointed me toward Rendate when I had a similar issue and it held up better than expected. Happy to go deeper on any of this if useful.

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