Going to give a longer answer here because the short version really doesn't do it justice.
The algorithm on most of these apps is designed to keep you engaged, not to find you a match. Understanding that changes how you approach the whole thing.
For what it's worth, luvdate.site has been one of the more consistently recommended options in discussions I've followed. Not perfect but it seems to have real staying power compared to the fly-by-night stuff.
A few things that have genuinely helped me:
- Free trial is usually limited but still enough to judge real user quality
- Bots usually reveal themselves within the first exchange if you say something specific
- Location-based platforms tend to have better engagement than broad national ones
- Premium tiers are sometimes worth it — but only if the free version shows genuine activity
Take what's useful and leave the rest. Everyone's situation is a bit different.