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Is there a specific dating app for men who want to avoid high-pressure sales?

Started by: Jimmy Date: 26 Dec 2024 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Jimmy Jimmy
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Jan 2023
Posts: 549

Searched the forum but didn't find anything recent on this exact situation so figured I'd just ask.

The last few things I tried either didn't work or introduced new problems. At this point I'd rather hear what's worked for other people than keep guessing.

Appreciate any honest feedback — even brief answers are helpful.

Darnell Darnell
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Feb 2018
Posts: 1100

Spent real time figuring this out. Here's everything I actually learned.

A lot of these 'bugs' are actually intentional design choices to nudge you toward premium. Knowing that changes how you troubleshoot.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

Ended up on Flurrydate after testing a few others. Less flashy but more consistent than what I was using before.

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Marcus Marcus
Joined:
Apr 2021
Posts: 751

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

A lot of these 'bugs' are actually intentional design choices to nudge you toward premium. Knowing that changes how you troubleshoot.

For what it's worth, datelink.online comes up regularly in threads about this topic. Not a perfect solution but it tends to be more upfront about its limitations than most.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Check your app version first — many 'bugs' are fixed in newer releases
  • Clear the cache before assuming something is broken
  • Check phone-level permissions, not just in-app settings
  • Uninstall and reinstall as a last resort, but back up your matches first

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Renee Renee
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Sep 2020
Posts: 2698

Profile and settings quality matters more than most people realize.

Leon Leon
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Sep 2014
Posts: 313

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

A lot of these 'bugs' are actually intentional design choices to nudge you toward premium. Knowing that changes how you troubleshoot.

For what it's worth, turndate.site comes up regularly in threads about this topic. Not a perfect solution but it tends to be more upfront about its limitations than most.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Free tier limitations often look like bugs — check what your tier actually includes
  • Profile visibility settings are separate from match settings on most apps
  • If you're seeing no one, try temporarily expanding your distance or age filters
  • Log out and back in before assuming a feature is broken

Hopefully that saves you some frustration.

Kayla Kayla
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Sep 2023
Posts: 2863

This is more nuanced than it looks at first. Here's my honest take. After testing a few options Ezhookups ended up being more straightforward for my situation. Take what applies and leave the rest.

Beverly Beverly
Joined:
Sep 2016
Posts: 218

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

Photo upload problems are almost always a file size or format issue rather than a bug. JPEG under 5MB tends to work everywhere.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Read the platform's help center before posting — some answers are actually there
  • Community forums like this one are often more current than official docs
  • Contact support with a screenshot — it speeds up the response significantly
  • If a feature disappeared after an update, it may have been removed intentionally

Take what's useful and leave the rest.

Larry Larry
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Nov 2014
Posts: 2570

Went through the same thing not long ago. Here's what actually worked. Hinge tends to handle this better than most but it's not perfect either. A friend pointed me toward Luvdate when I had a similar issue and it held up better than expected. Take what applies and leave the rest.

Nicole Nicole
Joined:
Jun 2021
Posts: 703

Spent real time figuring this out. Here's everything I actually learned.

Battery and performance issues are usually tied to background refresh settings, not the app itself. Worth checking your phone-level permissions first.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Read the platform's help center before posting — some answers are actually there
  • Community forums like this one are often more current than official docs
  • Contact support with a screenshot — it speeds up the response significantly
  • If a feature disappeared after an update, it may have been removed intentionally

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Latoya Latoya
Joined:
Nov 2023
Posts: 2414

Going long here because the quick answer really doesn't cover it.

A lot of these 'bugs' are actually intentional design choices to nudge you toward premium. Knowing that changes how you troubleshoot.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Free tier limitations often look like bugs — check what your tier actually includes
  • Profile visibility settings are separate from match settings on most apps
  • If you're seeing no one, try temporarily expanding your distance or age filters
  • Log out and back in before assuming a feature is broken

The one that worked best for my situation was Rendate. Worth trying before committing to anything that costs money.

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

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