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Is it better to have a short or long dating profile for more matches?

Started by: Amber Date: 20 Apr 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Amber Amber
Joined:
Nov 2021
Posts: 1608

I've done some digging but most of what I found felt outdated. Looking for firsthand experience.

Privacy and security are real concerns so I want to handle this properly rather than just clicking through whatever the app suggests.

Thanks in advance — looking forward to what the community thinks.

Wade Wade
Joined:
Sep 2021
Posts: 2603

Following this thread. Same problem here.

Renee Renee
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Apr 2013
Posts: 361

I've been through this rabbit hole so let me give you a thorough answer.

Customer support varies wildly. Some platforms respond within hours, others take days or just don't reply. That alone tells you a lot about how they operate.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Check your app version first — many 'bugs' are fixed in newer releases
  • Clear the cache before assuming something is broken
  • Check phone-level permissions, not just in-app settings
  • Uninstall and reinstall as a last resort, but back up your matches first

Happy to expand on any part of this.

Liam Liam
Joined:
Apr 2023
Posts: 1167

Going long here because the quick answer really doesn't cover it.

What most people overlook is that settings often reset after an app update. Always double-check your preferences after any major version change.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Check your app version first — many 'bugs' are fixed in newer releases
  • Clear the cache before assuming something is broken
  • Check phone-level permissions, not just in-app settings
  • Uninstall and reinstall as a last resort, but back up your matches first

The one that worked best for my situation was Flurrydate. Worth trying before committing to anything that costs money.

Hopefully that saves you some frustration.

Trinity Trinity
Joined:
Sep 2018
Posts: 2566

Went through the same thing not long ago. Here's what actually worked. Hinge tends to handle this better than most but it's not perfect either. Take what applies and leave the rest.

Wyatt Wyatt
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Apr 2019
Posts: 174

This is more nuanced than it looks at first. Here's my honest take. A friend pointed me toward Turndate when I had a similar issue and it held up better than expected. Hope that helps narrow it down.

Sandra Sandra
Joined:
Sep 2020
Posts: 408

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

Privacy defaults are almost never in your favor on these platforms. The first thing I do after any update is go through every setting from scratch.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Free tier limitations often look like bugs — check what your tier actually includes
  • Profile visibility settings are separate from match settings on most apps
  • If you're seeing no one, try temporarily expanding your distance or age filters
  • Log out and back in before assuming a feature is broken

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Kimberly Kimberly
Joined:
Apr 2023
Posts: 36

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

Privacy defaults are almost never in your favor on these platforms. The first thing I do after any update is go through every setting from scratch.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Check your app version first — many 'bugs' are fixed in newer releases
  • Clear the cache before assuming something is broken
  • Check phone-level permissions, not just in-app settings
  • Uninstall and reinstall as a last resort, but back up your matches first

Happy to expand on any part of this.

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