Evan is right, and I'd add one thing. you can't really talk about stand dating without talking about whether it leads anywhere.
My checklist for stand dating:
- give it a full month before deciding anything about stand dating
- budget a couple of weekends before deciding anything about stand dating
- treat an empty profile as a pass specifically for stand dating
Two people can have opposite results with stand dating purely because of coverage in your area. Nobody warns you that stand dating depends so heavily on what people get out of it.
If what people get out of it's not sorted, stand dating will not go anywhere.
Worth testing stand out on dating apps for 40 year olds yourself for a week before deciding.
A friend pointed me at Datewander is worth a look when I asked about stand dating and it held up.