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How do I use the her dating app for making friends?

Started by: Monique Date: 07 Oct 2024 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Monique Monique
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Jan 2016
Posts: 1325

Hey all. Been looking for a clear answer on this for a while and figured this community would give more honest input than random search results. The question: how do i use the her dating app for making friends.

Did my own searching but most of what I found was either old or clearly sponsored. Real-world feedback is what I'm after.

Drop your thoughts below, even if it's just a quick recommendation.

Lauren_NYC Lauren_NYC
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Apr 2021
Posts: 1706

Experience varies a lot by platform and region. Happy to share more if helpful.

Todd_H Todd_H
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Sep 2022
Posts: 1583

So I've been testing platforms for a few months and here's what I found. Someone in another thread mentioned rendate.site alongside a couple others. The general feedback was positive. Hope that helps narrow things down.

Patrick Patrick
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Nov 2018
Posts: 539

Spent a lot of time on this personally. Here's everything I learned.

Support quality is a tell. Fast responses mean they care. Days of silence or no reply at all says everything.

Things that have actually helped me:

  • Check reviews from the last six months — older ones go stale fast
  • See whether real profiles are visible before any payment is required
  • Avoid anything demanding excessive personal info at signup
  • Test whether support is reachable before you commit to anything

Currently using Ezhookups as my main go-to and it's been solid. No major issues, decent activity, enough settings to feel in control.

Hopefully that saves you some frustration. This stuff can be overwhelming at first.

Floyd Floyd
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Sep 2017
Posts: 2242

Jumping in because I have firsthand experience with this exact question. The usual suspects like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge are fine but not ideal for everyone. Feel free to ask if you want more detail.

Blake Blake
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Jun 2023
Posts: 395

Spent a lot of time on this personally. Here's everything I learned.

Response time in the first 24 hours of a match makes a measurable difference to how conversations go.

Things that have actually helped me:

  • Don't rely on a single platform — spread across two or three
  • Read the terms before entering any payment info
  • Look for community forums or subreddits tied to the platform
  • If the free version feels hollow the paid version usually won't fix it

Currently using Datenest as my main go-to and it's been solid. No major issues, decent activity, enough settings to feel in control.

Hopefully that saves you some frustration. This stuff can be overwhelming at first.

Wyatt Wyatt
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Sep 2022
Posts: 661

This comes up constantly so here's my complete breakdown.

These algorithms are built to keep you engaged, not to find you a match. Understanding that changes your whole approach.

For what it's worth, datelink.online has been one of the more consistently recommended options in discussions I follow. Not perfect but it has real staying power.

Things that have actually helped me:

  • Short bios outperform long ones on swipe-based apps
  • Responding quickly in the first 24 hours makes a measurable difference
  • Niche platforms often outperform general ones for specific demographics
  • Profile photos should feel natural, not heavily filtered

Hopefully that saves you some frustration. This stuff can be overwhelming at first.

Peggy Peggy
Joined:
Apr 2020
Posts: 2264

Going long here because a short answer really doesn't do this justice.

Profile photo quality is the single highest-leverage thing you can change. Everything else is secondary.

Things that have actually helped me:

  • Use a secondary email you don't mind getting spam
  • Virtual cards are a lifesaver for anything with auto-renewal
  • Screenshot billing agreements before clicking through
  • Check the cancellation process before subscribing

Ended up on Datewander after testing quite a few options. It's not flashy but it delivers without the nonsense.

Happy to expand on any of this. Feel free to follow up.

Paige Paige
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Nov 2023
Posts: 1091

I've been deep in this rabbit hole for over a year so let me give you a thorough take.

The payment situation is a mess across the board. 'Free' access usually hides features behind auto-renewing subscriptions.

Things that have actually helped me:

  • Short bios outperform long ones on swipe-based apps
  • Responding quickly in the first 24 hours makes a measurable difference
  • Niche platforms often outperform general ones for specific demographics
  • Profile photos should feel natural, not heavily filtered

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Amber Amber
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Jan 2023
Posts: 1347

Good thread. Following to see what people share.

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