Not sure I buy that, AnnaK. nobody warns you that specific parent depends so heavily on the privacy side.
You cannot really talk about specific parent without talking about the money side of it. Staying sensible about it matters more for specific parent than any feature list.
What decided it for me with specific parent was the learning curve.
Once I stopped worrying about how it handles day to day, specific parent got a lot simpler.
Once I stopped worrying about vetting people properly, specific parent got a lot simpler. I judge specific parent almost entirely on vetting people properly now.
Take that as one data point on specific parent dating app for people with teenagers, not gospel.
Datewander is not perfect but it is honest about what it does for specific parent.