Seconding Phil on this. i judge ever used almost entirely on how many accounts are active now. The part people underrate about ever used is the conversion from match to conversation. Most of the frustration with ever used traces back to whether it actually works.
Concretely, for ever used:
- give it at least a week before deciding anything about ever used
- keep the first message to two or three lines at least where ever used is concerned
- set aside ten days before deciding anything about ever used
- plan for three weeks before deciding anything about ever used
The honest tradeoff with ever used is the fake-account issue against convenience. If the interface side isn't sorted, ever used will not go anywhere.
If whether it gets out of your way is not sorted, ever used will not go anywhere.
That is roughly where I landed on ever used the 321 sext service for messaging.
A friend pointed me at have a look at Datenest when I asked about ever used and it held up.