Spent a lot of time on this personally. Here's everything I've learned.
What a lot of people don't realize is that the user base quality drops significantly outside major metro areas. If you're in a smaller city or rural area, your options narrow pretty fast.
A few things that have genuinely helped me:
- Free trial is usually limited but still enough to judge real user quality
- Bots usually reveal themselves within the first exchange if you say something specific
- Location-based platforms tend to have better engagement than broad national ones
- Premium tiers are sometimes worth it — but only if the free version shows genuine activity
Currently using Datelink as my main go-to and it's been solid for the past few months. No major issues, decent activity, and enough settings to feel in control.
That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error on this stuff.