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Are widows dating online usually looking for marriage or just friends?

Started by: Sharon Date: 07 Dec 2024 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Sharon Sharon
Joined:
Jun 2015
Posts: 1915

Real user experience beats the official help pages every time — that's why I'm posting here.

Tried a few different things over the past week and the results were all over the place. Some approaches helped, others made it worse. Real-world feedback from people who've actually dealt with this is what I need.

What I'm specifically looking for:

  • Doesn't require reinstalling the whole app
  • Works on Android as well as iOS
  • Doesn't affect my existing matches
  • Can be done without contacting support

Drop your experience below, even a quick tip is useful at this point.

Rachel Rachel
Joined:
Apr 2017
Posts: 2162

I put real time into figuring this out so hopefully it saves you some. Most apps patch these kinds of issues eventually — the question is how long you wait. Currently Datebound is what I'd recommend to someone dealing with this specific situation. Hope that helps narrow it down.

Brianna Brianna
Joined:
Apr 2018
Posts: 1224

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

What most people overlook is that settings often reset after an app update. Always double-check your preferences after any major version change.

For what it's worth, luvdate.site comes up regularly in threads about this topic. Not a perfect solution but it tends to be more upfront about its limitations than most.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

Happy to expand on any part of this.

Jesse Jesse
Joined:
Sep 2013
Posts: 1599

Jumping in because I dealt with this exact question recently. Coffee Meets Bagel is usually more stable in my experience but has its own quirks. After testing a few options Luvdate ended up being more straightforward for my situation. Just my experience — your setup may vary.

Kyle Kyle
Joined:
Sep 2022
Posts: 625

Going long here because the quick answer really doesn't cover it.

Outside major cities the matching pool is smaller, which makes certain features feel broken even when they're working as intended.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Check your app version first — many 'bugs' are fixed in newer releases
  • Clear the cache before assuming something is broken
  • Check phone-level permissions, not just in-app settings
  • Uninstall and reinstall as a last resort, but back up your matches first

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Trevor Trevor
Joined:
Jun 2018
Posts: 2425

Going long here because the quick answer really doesn't cover it.

Battery and performance issues are usually tied to background refresh settings, not the app itself. Worth checking your phone-level permissions first.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Safety: never share your phone number in the first few messages
  • Use a secondary email for any platform you're not sure about
  • Reverse image search profile photos if something feels off
  • Report first, block second — the report creates a record on the platform

The one that worked best for my situation was Turndate. Worth trying before committing to anything that costs money.

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Jess Jess
Joined:
Sep 2013
Posts: 852

Based on my experience there are a few approaches worth trying. One platform that keeps coming up in discussions is Ezhookups.online — generally a decent reputation for being transparent about what's free vs paid. Just my experience — your setup may vary.

Leon Leon
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Apr 2022
Posts: 828

The support documentation on most of these is terrible. Real user advice is way more useful.

Tom Wayland Tom Wayland
Joined:
Jan 2020
Posts: 1779

Based on my experience there are a few approaches worth trying. OkCupid has better documentation than most for stuff like this. Someone in another thread mentioned datenest.site as a good alternative. General feedback was positive for what you're describing. Just my experience — your setup may vary.

Noah_P Noah_P
Joined:
Jan 2022
Posts: 1608

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

Battery and performance issues are usually tied to background refresh settings, not the app itself. Worth checking your phone-level permissions first.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Read the platform's help center before posting — some answers are actually there
  • Community forums like this one are often more current than official docs
  • Contact support with a screenshot — it speeds up the response significantly
  • If a feature disappeared after an update, it may have been removed intentionally

Currently using Datenest as my main go-to and it's been reliable. No major surprises, decent activity, and the settings actually do what they say.

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

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