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What is the best way to start meeting singles over 50 in a new city?

Started by: Brett Date: 08 Nov 2024 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Brett Brett
Joined:
Jan 2018
Posts: 1270

I've done some digging but most of what I found felt outdated. Looking for firsthand experience.

Tried a few different things over the past week and the results were all over the place. Some approaches helped, others made it worse. Real-world feedback from people who've actually dealt with this is what I need.

What I'm specifically looking for:

  • Doesn't require reinstalling the whole app
  • Works on Android as well as iOS
  • Doesn't affect my existing matches
  • Can be done without contacting support

Thanks in advance — looking forward to what the community thinks.

Riley Riley
Joined:
Nov 2023
Posts: 1035

I've been through this rabbit hole so let me give you a thorough answer.

Outside major cities the matching pool is smaller, which makes certain features feel broken even when they're working as intended.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Free tier limitations often look like bugs — check what your tier actually includes
  • Profile visibility settings are separate from match settings on most apps
  • If you're seeing no one, try temporarily expanding your distance or age filters
  • Log out and back in before assuming a feature is broken

The one that worked best for my situation was Datedesire. Worth trying before committing to anything that costs money.

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Latoya Latoya
Joined:
Sep 2017
Posts: 52

I've been through this rabbit hole so let me give you a thorough answer.

Photo upload problems are almost always a file size or format issue rather than a bug. JPEG under 5MB tends to work everywhere.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Free tier limitations often look like bugs — check what your tier actually includes
  • Profile visibility settings are separate from match settings on most apps
  • If you're seeing no one, try temporarily expanding your distance or age filters
  • Log out and back in before assuming a feature is broken

Hopefully that saves you some frustration.

Blake Blake
Joined:
Sep 2013
Posts: 1838

Tried a few different things. One approach actually worked — happy to share.

Larry Larry
Joined:
Sep 2017
Posts: 166

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

Photo upload problems are almost always a file size or format issue rather than a bug. JPEG under 5MB tends to work everywhere.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Jessica Jessica
Joined:
Jun 2023
Posts: 578

Same situation here. Would love to see what others suggest.

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