Spent real time figuring this out. Here's everything I actually learned.
Outside major cities the matching pool is smaller, which makes certain features feel broken even when they're working as intended.
Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:
- Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
- Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
- Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
- Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path
Ended up on Datebie after testing a few others. Less flashy but more consistent than what I was using before.
Take what's useful and leave the rest.