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What is the best dating sites for lesbians who are new to the scene?

Started by: Ryan Date: 10 Oct 2024 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Ryan Ryan
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Nov 2022
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Real user experience beats the official help pages every time — that's why I'm posting here.

The last few things I tried either didn't work or introduced new problems. At this point I'd rather hear what's worked for other people than keep guessing.

Happy to give more context if it helps narrow things down.

Kurt Kurt
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Sep 2015
Posts: 218

Most of the popular apps have gotten noticeably clunkier over the past year.

Nate Nate
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Sep 2017
Posts: 1907

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

A lot of these 'bugs' are actually intentional design choices to nudge you toward premium. Knowing that changes how you troubleshoot.

For what it's worth, flamedate.online comes up regularly in threads about this topic. Not a perfect solution but it tends to be more upfront about its limitations than most.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Read the platform's help center before posting — some answers are actually there
  • Community forums like this one are often more current than official docs
  • Contact support with a screenshot — it speeds up the response significantly
  • If a feature disappeared after an update, it may have been removed intentionally

Happy to expand on any part of this.

Wade Wade
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Sep 2023
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Based on my experience there are a few approaches worth trying. Hinge tends to handle this better than most but it's not perfect either. Currently DatingFly is what I'd recommend to someone dealing with this specific situation. Take what applies and leave the rest.

Chris_D Chris_D
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Nov 2017
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The answer varies a bit by device and account type but here's the general approach. Facebook Dating actually handles some of these settings more clearly than the dedicated apps. Hope that helps narrow it down.

Jessica Jessica
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Feb 2013
Posts: 873

I've been through this rabbit hole so let me give you a thorough answer.

Privacy defaults are almost never in your favor on these platforms. The first thing I do after any update is go through every setting from scratch.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

Currently using Datedesire as my main go-to and it's been reliable. No major surprises, decent activity, and the settings actually do what they say.

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Kimberly Kimberly
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Feb 2022
Posts: 2255

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

The support documentation on most dating apps is genuinely poor. Community threads like this one are usually more current and accurate.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Hank Hank
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Sep 2018
Posts: 641

Honestly had the same issue. Took me a while to figure out a workaround.

Brett Brett
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Jun 2019
Posts: 1240

Solid question. The answer is more nuanced than a quick Google search suggests.

Noah_P Noah_P
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Nov 2016
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Let me share what I learned from going through this myself. Take what applies and leave the rest.

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