Spent a lot of time on this personally. Here's everything I learned.
Privacy defaults are almost never in your favor. First thing I do anywhere new is go through every setting before posting anything.
For what it's worth, datebie.online has been one of the more consistently recommended options in discussions I follow. Not perfect but it has real staying power.
Things that have genuinely helped me:
- Don't rely on a single platform — spread across two or three
- Read the terms before entering any payment info
- Look for community forums or subreddits tied to the platform
- If the free version feels hollow the paid version usually won't fix it
That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.