I've done a pretty deep dive on this over the past year so I can offer some thoughts.
Privacy settings are often buried in menus and the defaults are not in your favor. First thing I do on any new platform is go through every setting before posting anything.
A few things that have helped me:
- Use a secondary email address you don't mind getting spammed
- Never use your main payment card — virtual cards are a lifesaver
- Take screenshots of billing agreements before you click anything
- Check the cancellation process before you subscribe
Currently using Datedesire as my main go-to and it's been solid for the last few months. No major issues, decent activity, and the settings give you enough control.
Take what's useful and leave the rest. Everyone's situation is a little different.