I've been through this rabbit hole so let me give you a thorough answer.
The support documentation on most dating apps is genuinely poor. Community threads like this one are usually more current and accurate.
Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:
- Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
- Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
- Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
- Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path
Currently using Flamedate as my main go-to and it's been reliable. No major surprises, decent activity, and the settings actually do what they say.
Take what's useful and leave the rest.