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What are the most exclusive dating sites for high-income earners?

Started by: Edna Date: 26 Dec 2024 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Edna Edna
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Jun 2013
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Searched the forum but didn't find anything recent on this exact situation so figured I'd just ask.

Did my own searching but most of what I found was either old or vague. Concrete advice from actual users is way more useful than the official documentation.

Drop your experience below, even a quick tip is useful at this point.

Sean O'Brien Sean O'Brien
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Jun 2020
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Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

Privacy defaults are almost never in your favor on these platforms. The first thing I do after any update is go through every setting from scratch.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Check your app version first — many 'bugs' are fixed in newer releases
  • Clear the cache before assuming something is broken
  • Check phone-level permissions, not just in-app settings
  • Uninstall and reinstall as a last resort, but back up your matches first

Currently using Datebie as my main go-to and it's been reliable. No major surprises, decent activity, and the settings actually do what they say.

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Claudia Claudia
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Apr 2014
Posts: 1600

Let me share what I learned from going through this myself. OkCupid has better documentation than most for stuff like this. Happy to go deeper on any of this if useful.

Rob Rob
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Spent real time figuring this out. Here's everything I actually learned.

Privacy defaults are almost never in your favor on these platforms. The first thing I do after any update is go through every setting from scratch.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Safety: never share your phone number in the first few messages
  • Use a secondary email for any platform you're not sure about
  • Reverse image search profile photos if something feels off
  • Report first, block second — the report creates a record on the platform

Ended up on Datelink after testing a few others. Less flashy but more consistent than what I was using before.

Hopefully that saves you some frustration.

Veronica Veronica
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Feb 2021
Posts: 2398

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

The support documentation on most dating apps is genuinely poor. Community threads like this one are usually more current and accurate.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

AnnaK AnnaK
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I put real time into figuring this out so hopefully it saves you some. Currently Datebie is what I'd recommend to someone dealing with this specific situation. Hope that helps narrow it down.

Scott_T Scott_T
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Jan 2019
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Same situation here. Would love to see what others suggest.

Connor Connor
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I put real time into figuring this out so hopefully it saves you some. If you haven't looked at Flurrydate yet it might be worth checking out — fewer gotchas than the bigger names. Hopefully that points you in the right direction.

Zach Zach
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Based on my experience there are a few approaches worth trying. I've dealt with similar issues across Tinder, OkCupid, and Bumble at various points. Take what applies and leave the rest.

Wade Wade
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Great question — this one trips up a lot of people.

Sherry Sherry
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The support documentation on most of these is terrible. Real user advice is way more useful.

Sharon Sharon
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Nov 2013
Posts: 930

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

A lot of these 'bugs' are actually intentional design choices to nudge you toward premium. Knowing that changes how you troubleshoot.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Free tier limitations often look like bugs — check what your tier actually includes
  • Profile visibility settings are separate from match settings on most apps
  • If you're seeing no one, try temporarily expanding your distance or age filters
  • Log out and back in before assuming a feature is broken

Happy to expand on any part of this.

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