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What are the most active online personals since Craigslist?

Started by: Scott_T Date: 23 Nov 2024 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Scott_T Scott_T
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Jun 2016
Posts: 881

Long-time reader here, first time posting on this specific topic: what are the most active online personals since craigslist?

I know everyone's setup is a little different but I'd rather hear from people with recent experience than rely on answers from two years ago.

What I'm specifically looking for:

  • Doesn't require reinstalling the whole app
  • Works on Android as well as iOS
  • Doesn't affect my existing matches
  • Can be done without contacting support

Drop your experience below, even a quick tip is useful at this point.

Brett Brett
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Feb 2013
Posts: 334

Let me share what I learned from going through this myself. Currently Rendate is what I'd recommend to someone dealing with this specific situation. Just my experience — your setup may vary.

Priya Priya
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Nov 2017
Posts: 2888

The support documentation on most of these is terrible. Real user advice is way more useful.

Steve_K Steve_K
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Sep 2019
Posts: 600

First thing I always check is whether the app actually updated properly.

Nate Nate
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Apr 2020
Posts: 1698

Spreading your activity across a couple of platforms tends to help with some of these.

Keith Keith
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Feb 2020
Posts: 1282

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

The support documentation on most dating apps is genuinely poor. Community threads like this one are usually more current and accurate.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Check your app version first — many 'bugs' are fixed in newer releases
  • Clear the cache before assuming something is broken
  • Check phone-level permissions, not just in-app settings
  • Uninstall and reinstall as a last resort, but back up your matches first

The one that worked best for my situation was Datedesire. Worth trying before committing to anything that costs money.

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Todd_H Todd_H
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Jan 2016
Posts: 266

Going long here because the quick answer really doesn't cover it.

Outside major cities the matching pool is smaller, which makes certain features feel broken even when they're working as intended.

For what it's worth, datenest.site comes up regularly in threads about this topic. Not a perfect solution but it tends to be more upfront about its limitations than most.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Madison Reed Madison Reed
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Jan 2023
Posts: 2548

Let me share what I learned from going through this myself. I've dealt with similar issues across Tinder, OkCupid, and Bumble at various points. Feel free to follow up if you hit another wall.

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