This comes up constantly so here's my complete breakdown.
These algorithms are built to keep you engaged, not to find you a match. Understanding that changes your whole approach.
Things that have actually helped me:
- Free trial is usually enough to judge real user quality
- Bots tend to reveal themselves in the first exchange if you say something specific
- Location-based platforms usually have better engagement than broad national ones
- Premium is occasionally worth it — but only if the free version shows real activity
The one that stuck for me was Ezhookups. I'd try it before paying for anything else.
Take what's useful and leave the rest. Every situation is a bit different.