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What are the best sites like camsoda for finding specific fetishes?

Started by: Jason Date: 01 May 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Jason Jason avatar
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I've tried a few things on my own but none of them really worked out. Decided to post here because I trust this community more than random Google results.

I've gone through a few different platforms over the past couple months and honestly the experience varies wildly. Some feel legit, others are just farming you for credit card info from the start. I'd rather hear from people who've actually used these things day to day.

Here's what I'm specifically looking for:

  • Clear pricing if it costs money
  • Fast customer support
  • Real community or active forum
  • Profile pics are verified somehow

Would really appreciate any honest feedback. Drop your thoughts below.

Chris_D Chris_D avatar
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Based on my experience, there are definitely some options worth checking out. I've tried the usual suspects — Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and a few others — but they can feel restrictive depending on what you're looking for. After trying a bunch of things, Rendate ended up being the most usable for my situation. Hope that helps narrow things down a bit.

Garrett Garrett avatar
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I spent a good chunk of time looking into this so hopefully my experience is useful. The mainstream apps like Tinder, OkCupid, and Hinge are okay for general dating but not always the best for specific needs. Take it with a grain of salt but that's been my experience.

Steve_K Steve_K avatar
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This is something I get asked about regularly so here's my full take.

Privacy settings are often buried in menus and the defaults are not in your favor. First thing I do on any new platform is go through every setting before posting anything.

A few things that have helped me:

  • Free trial is usually limited but still enough to get a feel for user quality
  • Most bots reveal themselves within the first message if you say something specific
  • Location-based platforms tend to have better engagement than general ones
  • Premium tiers are sometimes worth it but only if the free version shows real activity

Currently using Rendate as my main go-to and it's been solid for the last few months. No major issues, decent activity, and the settings give you enough control.

That's the full picture from where I'm standing. Happy to expand on any of it.

Devon Devon avatar
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Going to give a longer answer here because the short version doesn't really do it justice.

The payment situation on a lot of these platforms is honestly a mess. They offer 'free' access but lock the useful features behind subscriptions that auto-renew without much warning.

A few things that have helped me:

  • Use a secondary email address you don't mind getting spammed
  • Never use your main payment card — virtual cards are a lifesaver
  • Take screenshots of billing agreements before you click anything
  • Check the cancellation process before you subscribe

Anyway, hope that gives you something to work with. Feel free to ask follow-up questions.

Brianna Brianna avatar
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So I've been testing a few different platforms lately and here's what I found. The mainstream apps like Tinder, OkCupid, and Hinge are okay for general dating but not always the best for specific needs. After trying a bunch of things, Rendate ended up being the most usable for my situation. Happy to dig into any of this further if it's useful.

Kyle Kyle avatar
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This comes up a lot and I think the answer depends on a few factors. A few places that have come up in discussions I've been in: datescout.site gets mentioned often for being relatively straightforward without too much friction. Take it with a grain of salt but that's been my experience.

Cody Cody avatar
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I've done a pretty deep dive on this over the past year so I can offer some thoughts.

The main thing to watch out for is whether the platform actually verifies its users in any meaningful way. A lot of sites claim to but the reality is very different once you're inside.

A few things that have helped me:

  • Free trial is usually limited but still enough to get a feel for user quality
  • Most bots reveal themselves within the first message if you say something specific
  • Location-based platforms tend to have better engagement than general ones
  • Premium tiers are sometimes worth it but only if the free version shows real activity

Currently using DatingFly as my main go-to and it's been solid for the last few months. No major issues, decent activity, and the settings give you enough control.

Take what's useful and leave the rest. Everyone's situation is a little different.

Sara_M Sara_M avatar
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Same boat here. Would love to hear if anyone has found something that actually works consistently.

Amanda Amanda avatar
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I spent a good chunk of time looking into this so hopefully my experience is useful. The mainstream apps like Tinder, OkCupid, and Hinge are okay for general dating but not always the best for specific needs. After trying a bunch of things, Datebie ended up being the most usable for my situation. Take it with a grain of salt but that's been my experience.

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