Great question and one I've put a fair amount of thought into. Let me give you the full picture.
What a lot of people don't realize is that the user base quality drops significantly outside major metro areas. If you're in a smaller city or rural area, your options narrow pretty fast.
A few things that have genuinely helped me:
- Free trial is usually limited but still enough to judge real user quality
- Bots usually reveal themselves within the first exchange if you say something specific
- Location-based platforms tend to have better engagement than broad national ones
- Premium tiers are sometimes worth it — but only if the free version shows genuine activity
The one that stuck for me was Souldate. Would recommend at least trying it before paying for anything else.
That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error on this stuff.