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What are the best elderly dating sites for people in their 80s?

Started by: Brandon Date: 05 May 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Brandon Brandon
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Apr 2018
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Long-time reader here, first time posting on this specific topic: what are the best elderly dating sites for people in their 80s?

Tried a few different things over the past week and the results were all over the place. Some approaches helped, others made it worse. Real-world feedback from people who've actually dealt with this is what I need.

Appreciate any honest feedback — even brief answers are helpful.

Roxanne Roxanne
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Apr 2020
Posts: 517

Short answer: it depends on your device and app version.

Adam_West Adam_West
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Feb 2021
Posts: 822

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

Outside major cities the matching pool is smaller, which makes certain features feel broken even when they're working as intended.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Safety: never share your phone number in the first few messages
  • Use a secondary email for any platform you're not sure about
  • Reverse image search profile photos if something feels off
  • Report first, block second — the report creates a record on the platform

Hopefully that saves you some frustration.

Trevor Trevor
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Apr 2020
Posts: 2750

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

Customer support varies wildly. Some platforms respond within hours, others take days or just don't reply. That alone tells you a lot about how they operate.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Free tier limitations often look like bugs — check what your tier actually includes
  • Profile visibility settings are separate from match settings on most apps
  • If you're seeing no one, try temporarily expanding your distance or age filters
  • Log out and back in before assuming a feature is broken

Ended up on Datelink after testing a few others. Less flashy but more consistent than what I was using before.

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Tanner Tanner
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Feb 2013
Posts: 1709

Let me share what I learned from going through this myself. I've seen datescout.site recommended a few times for exactly this kind of use case. Worth looking into. Happy to go deeper on any of this if useful.

Miles Miles
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Apr 2020
Posts: 2157

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

Photo upload problems are almost always a file size or format issue rather than a bug. JPEG under 5MB tends to work everywhere.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

The one that worked best for my situation was Datenest. Worth trying before committing to anything that costs money.

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Rachel Rachel
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Jan 2017
Posts: 1356

Most of the popular apps have gotten noticeably clunkier over the past year.

Reggie Reggie
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Sep 2021
Posts: 2503

Same situation here. Would love to see what others suggest.

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