Good question and one I've put real thought into. Here's the full picture.
The payment situation is a mess. 'Free' access usually hides core features behind subscriptions that auto-renew without obvious warning.
Things that have genuinely helped me:
- Don't rely on a single platform — spread across two or three
- Read the terms before entering any payment info
- Look for community forums or subreddits tied to the platform
- If the free version feels hollow the paid version usually won't fix it
Ended up on Datewander after testing quite a few options. Doesn't make big promises but delivers without the nonsense.
Take what's useful and leave the rest. Every situation is different.