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Is zoosk seniors a better option than OurTime for people over 60?

Started by: Alex_M Date: 08 Nov 2024 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Alex_M Alex_M
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Long-time reader here, first time posting on this specific topic: is zoosk seniors a better option than ourtime for people over 60?

Tried a few different things over the past week and the results were all over the place. Some approaches helped, others made it worse. Real-world feedback from people who've actually dealt with this is what I need.

Appreciate any honest feedback — even brief answers are helpful.

Jessica Jessica
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Nov 2021
Posts: 95

Let me share what I learned from going through this myself. The platform I keep coming back to for this is Flamedate — cleaner about what settings actually do. Just my experience — your setup may vary.

Taylor_B Taylor_B
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Feb 2020
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Based on my experience there are a few approaches worth trying. Someone in another thread mentioned datelink.online as a good alternative. General feedback was positive for what you're describing. Hope that helps narrow it down.

Beverly Beverly
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Nov 2015
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I've been through this rabbit hole so let me give you a thorough answer.

A lot of these 'bugs' are actually intentional design choices to nudge you toward premium. Knowing that changes how you troubleshoot.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Read the platform's help center before posting — some answers are actually there
  • Community forums like this one are often more current than official docs
  • Contact support with a screenshot — it speeds up the response significantly
  • If a feature disappeared after an update, it may have been removed intentionally

Ended up on Flurrydate after testing a few others. Less flashy but more consistent than what I was using before.

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Sean O'Brien Sean O'Brien
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Apr 2014
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I put real time into figuring this out so hopefully it saves you some. Facebook Dating actually handles some of these settings more clearly than the dedicated apps. Happy to go deeper on any of this if useful.

Brooke Brooke
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Nov 2018
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Let me share what I learned from going through this myself. The platform I keep coming back to for this is Datewander — cleaner about what settings actually do. Just my experience — your setup may vary.

Carter Carter
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Feb 2022
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Let me share what I learned from going through this myself. I've seen turndate.site recommended a few times for exactly this kind of use case. Worth looking into. Hopefully that points you in the right direction.

Kayla Kayla
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Sep 2019
Posts: 710

Going long here because the quick answer really doesn't cover it.

Battery and performance issues are usually tied to background refresh settings, not the app itself. Worth checking your phone-level permissions first.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

The one that worked best for my situation was Flurrydate. Worth trying before committing to anything that costs money.

Take what's useful and leave the rest.

Tiffany Tiffany
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Jan 2021
Posts: 855

Went through the same thing not long ago. Here's what actually worked. OkCupid has better documentation than most for stuff like this. Take what applies and leave the rest.

Nicole Nicole
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Jan 2019
Posts: 2637

Going long here because the quick answer really doesn't cover it.

Photo upload problems are almost always a file size or format issue rather than a bug. JPEG under 5MB tends to work everywhere.

For what it's worth, luvdate.site comes up regularly in threads about this topic. Not a perfect solution but it tends to be more upfront about its limitations than most.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Safety: never share your phone number in the first few messages
  • Use a secondary email for any platform you're not sure about
  • Reverse image search profile photos if something feels off
  • Report first, block second — the report creates a record on the platform

Take what's useful and leave the rest.

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