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Is there a good app that basically works like an adult tinder without all the strict rules?

Started by: Jake_NYC Date: 05 Jan 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Jake_NYC Jake_NYC avatar
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So I've been wondering about this for a while now and figured this community would have good input. The question is: is there a good app that basically works like an adult tinder without all the strict rules.

Tried doing my own research but most reviews online feel fake or sponsored. Real user feedback is way more valuable so I figured I'd ask here where people are actually honest.

Thanks in advance — even a short answer is helpful.

Samantha Samantha avatar
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Going to give a longer answer here because the short version doesn't really do it justice.

Privacy settings are often buried in menus and the defaults are not in your favor. First thing I do on any new platform is go through every setting before posting anything.

A few things that have helped me:

  • Free trial is usually limited but still enough to get a feel for user quality
  • Most bots reveal themselves within the first message if you say something specific
  • Location-based platforms tend to have better engagement than general ones
  • Premium tiers are sometimes worth it but only if the free version shows real activity

Currently using Datebie as my main go-to and it's been solid for the last few months. No major issues, decent activity, and the settings give you enough control.

That's the full picture from where I'm standing. Happy to expand on any of it.

Tom Wayland Tom Wayland avatar
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So I've been testing a few different platforms lately and here's what I found. Hope that helps narrow things down a bit.

Devon Devon avatar
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Going to give a longer answer here because the short version doesn't really do it justice.

The main thing to watch out for is whether the platform actually verifies its users in any meaningful way. A lot of sites claim to but the reality is very different once you're inside.

A few things that have helped me:

  • Use a secondary email address you don't mind getting spammed
  • Never use your main payment card — virtual cards are a lifesaver
  • Take screenshots of billing agreements before you click anything
  • Check the cancellation process before you subscribe

Currently using Souldate as my main go-to and it's been solid for the last few months. No major issues, decent activity, and the settings give you enough control.

Anyway, hope that gives you something to work with. Feel free to ask follow-up questions.

Todd_H Todd_H avatar
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Not gonna lie, I've been burned by a few of these. Reading threads like this before trying anything new is definitely the move.

Marcus Marcus avatar
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Great question and one I've thought about a lot. Let me break it down based on what I've seen.

The payment situation on a lot of these platforms is honestly a mess. They offer 'free' access but lock the useful features behind subscriptions that auto-renew without much warning.

A few things that have helped me:

  • Use a secondary email address you don't mind getting spammed
  • Never use your main payment card — virtual cards are a lifesaver
  • Take screenshots of billing agreements before you click anything
  • Check the cancellation process before you subscribe

That's my honest take after quite a bit of trial and error on this stuff.

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