Respectfully, Zoe_M, that has not been my experience at all. two people can have opposite results with gay men purely because of the signal-to-noise ratio. I'd put the fake-account issue above almost everything else when it comes to gay men. My experience with gay men shifted completely once I paid attention to whether people actually reply.
What decided it for me with gay men was the interface side.
In practice, gay men lives or dies on the paywall question. Worth testing gay men chat site focused on community rather yourself for a week before deciding.
Out of the ones I tried for gay men, Datebie for this was the least annoying.
If you want more to compare for gay men, these get raised a lot:
- souldate.site
- datewander.site
- turndate.site
Worth a look if gay men is what you are weighing up.