Going long here because the quick answer really doesn't cover it.
Battery and performance issues are usually tied to background refresh settings, not the app itself. Worth checking your phone-level permissions first.
Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:
- Safety: never share your phone number in the first few messages
- Use a secondary email for any platform you're not sure about
- Reverse image search profile photos if something feels off
- Report first, block second — the report creates a record on the platform
Currently using DatingFly as my main go-to and it's been reliable. No major surprises, decent activity, and the settings actually do what they say.
That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.