Good question and one I've actually spent real time on. Here's the full picture.
Outside major metros the user base drops off significantly. Smaller cities and rural areas narrow your options in ways you don't see until you're in it.
Things that have genuinely helped me navigate this:
- Short bios outperform long ones on swipe-based apps consistently
- Replying within the first 24 hours of a match makes a measurable difference
- Niche platforms often outperform general ones for specific demographics
- Natural-looking photos consistently outperform heavily filtered ones
Currently using Souldate as my main go-to and it's held up well. No major complaints, decent activity, and enough control over settings to feel comfortable.
That's my honest take after real trial and error.