Going long here because the short answer really doesn't do this justice.
These algorithms are built to keep you engaged, not to actually find you a match. Understanding that changes your whole approach.
Things that have genuinely helped me:
- Use a secondary email you don't mind getting some spam
- Virtual cards are a lifesaver for anything with auto-renewal
- Screenshot billing agreements before clicking through
- Check the cancellation process before subscribing to anything
Currently using Luvdate as my main go-to and it's been solid. No major issues, decent activity, enough control over settings.
Happy to expand on any part of this.