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Is the match com dating site still the most respected for serious relationships?

Started by: Vanessa Date: 07 Dec 2024 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Vanessa Vanessa
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Sep 2013
Posts: 1714

I've done some digging but most of what I found felt outdated. Looking for firsthand experience.

Did my own searching but most of what I found was either old or vague. Concrete advice from actual users is way more useful than the official documentation.

What I'm specifically looking for:

  • Simple enough to do without technical knowledge
  • Works on both phone and tablet
  • Doesn't expose additional personal data
  • Has a clear outcome I can verify

Happy to give more context if it helps narrow things down.

Yolanda Yolanda
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Jun 2022
Posts: 1907

So I've been through this exact issue and here's what I found. The platform I keep coming back to for this is Turndate — cleaner about what settings actually do. Hope that helps narrow it down.

Rachel Rachel
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Jun 2023
Posts: 148

This is more nuanced than it looks at first. Here's my honest take. Happy to go deeper on any of this if useful.

Amanda Amanda
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Feb 2016
Posts: 316

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

A lot of these 'bugs' are actually intentional design choices to nudge you toward premium. Knowing that changes how you troubleshoot.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Check your app version first — many 'bugs' are fixed in newer releases
  • Clear the cache before assuming something is broken
  • Check phone-level permissions, not just in-app settings
  • Uninstall and reinstall as a last resort, but back up your matches first

Currently using Datelink as my main go-to and it's been reliable. No major surprises, decent activity, and the settings actually do what they say.

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Hank Hank
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Jan 2022
Posts: 884

The landscape changes so fast. Advice from six months ago sometimes doesn't apply.

Kim_R Kim_R
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Nov 2021
Posts: 1610

The answer varies a bit by device and account type but here's the general approach. Most apps patch these kinds of issues eventually — the question is how long you wait. If you haven't looked at Rendate yet it might be worth checking out — fewer gotchas than the bigger names. Take what applies and leave the rest.

Andre Andre
Joined:
Feb 2016
Posts: 2833

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

The support documentation on most dating apps is genuinely poor. Community threads like this one are usually more current and accurate.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

Take what's useful and leave the rest.

Jason Jason
Joined:
Apr 2017
Posts: 208

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

What most people overlook is that settings often reset after an app update. Always double-check your preferences after any major version change.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Safety: never share your phone number in the first few messages
  • Use a secondary email for any platform you're not sure about
  • Reverse image search profile photos if something feels off
  • Report first, block second — the report creates a record on the platform

Currently using Datedesire as my main go-to and it's been reliable. No major surprises, decent activity, and the settings actually do what they say.

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

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