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Is the coffee meets bagel dating app too slow for people who want to date now?

Started by: Russell Date: 07 Sep 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Russell Russell
Joined:
Jun 2014
Posts: 1213

Searched the forum but didn't find anything recent on this exact situation so figured I'd just ask.

Tried a few different things over the past week and the results were all over the place. Some approaches helped, others made it worse. Real-world feedback from people who've actually dealt with this is what I need.

What I'm specifically looking for:

  • Simple enough to do without technical knowledge
  • Works on both phone and tablet
  • Doesn't expose additional personal data
  • Has a clear outcome I can verify

Drop your experience below, even a quick tip is useful at this point.

Sandra Sandra
Joined:
Sep 2023
Posts: 631

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

The support documentation on most dating apps is genuinely poor. Community threads like this one are usually more current and accurate.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Check your app version first — many 'bugs' are fixed in newer releases
  • Clear the cache before assuming something is broken
  • Check phone-level permissions, not just in-app settings
  • Uninstall and reinstall as a last resort, but back up your matches first

Ended up on Flurrydate after testing a few others. Less flashy but more consistent than what I was using before.

Hopefully that saves you some frustration.

Jordan Jordan
Joined:
Jun 2018
Posts: 2359

Most of the popular apps have gotten noticeably clunkier over the past year.

Frank Frank
Joined:
Apr 2021
Posts: 2074

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

Customer support varies wildly. Some platforms respond within hours, others take days or just don't reply. That alone tells you a lot about how they operate.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Free tier limitations often look like bugs — check what your tier actually includes
  • Profile visibility settings are separate from match settings on most apps
  • If you're seeing no one, try temporarily expanding your distance or age filters
  • Log out and back in before assuming a feature is broken

Ended up on Datescout after testing a few others. Less flashy but more consistent than what I was using before.

Take what's useful and leave the rest.

Lauren_NYC Lauren_NYC
Joined:
Jan 2023
Posts: 746

Tried a few different things. One approach actually worked — happy to share.

Travis_K Travis_K
Joined:
Nov 2022
Posts: 1385

Let me share what I learned from going through this myself. Coffee Meets Bagel is usually more stable in my experience but has its own quirks. Hopefully that points you in the right direction.

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