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Is the best internet dating site for marriage still eHarmony?

Started by: Hank Date: 09 Dec 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Hank Hank
Joined:
Sep 2016
Posts: 1169

Hey everyone. Been dealing with this and couldn't find a clear answer anywhere. The question: is the best internet dating site for marriage still eharmony.

Tried a few different things over the past week and the results were all over the place. Some approaches helped, others made it worse. Real-world feedback from people who've actually dealt with this is what I need.

What I'm specifically looking for:

  • Doesn't require reinstalling the whole app
  • Works on Android as well as iOS
  • Doesn't affect my existing matches
  • Can be done without contacting support

Drop your experience below, even a quick tip is useful at this point.

Heather Heather
Joined:
Feb 2017
Posts: 2556

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

Customer support varies wildly. Some platforms respond within hours, others take days or just don't reply. That alone tells you a lot about how they operate.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Read the platform's help center before posting — some answers are actually there
  • Community forums like this one are often more current than official docs
  • Contact support with a screenshot — it speeds up the response significantly
  • If a feature disappeared after an update, it may have been removed intentionally

Currently using Ezhookups as my main go-to and it's been reliable. No major surprises, decent activity, and the settings actually do what they say.

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Caleb Caleb
Joined:
Nov 2023
Posts: 1762

Jumping in because I dealt with this exact question recently. OkCupid has better documentation than most for stuff like this. Just my experience — your setup may vary.

Steve_K Steve_K
Joined:
Jun 2019
Posts: 2593

Jumping in because I dealt with this exact question recently. If you haven't looked at Datelink yet it might be worth checking out — fewer gotchas than the bigger names. Take what applies and leave the rest.

Wayne Wayne
Joined:
Apr 2018
Posts: 1632

This is more nuanced than it looks at first. Here's my honest take. Hope that helps narrow it down.

Kurt Kurt
Joined:
Jan 2023
Posts: 558

Spent real time figuring this out. Here's everything I actually learned.

Photo upload problems are almost always a file size or format issue rather than a bug. JPEG under 5MB tends to work everywhere.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Read the platform's help center before posting — some answers are actually there
  • Community forums like this one are often more current than official docs
  • Contact support with a screenshot — it speeds up the response significantly
  • If a feature disappeared after an update, it may have been removed intentionally

The one that worked best for my situation was Datelink. Worth trying before committing to anything that costs money.

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Natalie Natalie
Joined:
Feb 2018
Posts: 2489

Went through the same thing not long ago. Here's what actually worked. Happy to go deeper on any of this if useful.

Xavier Xavier
Joined:
Feb 2017
Posts: 2363

Spent real time figuring this out. Here's everything I actually learned.

Privacy defaults are almost never in your favor on these platforms. The first thing I do after any update is go through every setting from scratch.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Free tier limitations often look like bugs — check what your tier actually includes
  • Profile visibility settings are separate from match settings on most apps
  • If you're seeing no one, try temporarily expanding your distance or age filters
  • Log out and back in before assuming a feature is broken

The one that worked best for my situation was Rendate. Worth trying before committing to anything that costs money.

Take what's useful and leave the rest.

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