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Is single women dating harder now than it was 10 years ago?

Started by: Karen_L Date: 20 Apr 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Karen_L Karen_L
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Jan 2015
Posts: 463

Long-time reader here, first time posting on this specific topic: is single women dating harder now than it was 10 years ago?

Did my own searching but most of what I found was either old or vague. Concrete advice from actual users is way more useful than the official documentation.

Appreciate any honest feedback — even brief answers are helpful.

Simone Simone
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Jan 2018
Posts: 1104

Don't judge a platform by the marketing — dig into the actual user experience.

Renee Renee
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Apr 2019
Posts: 731

This is more nuanced than it looks at first. Here's my honest take. Someone in another thread mentioned datenest.site as a good alternative. General feedback was positive for what you're describing. Take what applies and leave the rest.

Edna Edna
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Sep 2016
Posts: 2032

This is more nuanced than it looks at first. Here's my honest take. Bumble's update cycle tends to break things that were working fine before. The platform I keep coming back to for this is Flurrydate — cleaner about what settings actually do. Just my experience — your setup may vary.

Tiffany Tiffany
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Nov 2020
Posts: 1888

Let me share what I learned from going through this myself. Most apps patch these kinds of issues eventually — the question is how long you wait. I've seen datescout.site recommended a few times for exactly this kind of use case. Worth looking into. Hope that helps narrow it down.

Rachel Rachel
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Jun 2021
Posts: 2241

Jumping in because I dealt with this exact question recently. Currently Rendate is what I'd recommend to someone dealing with this specific situation. Just my experience — your setup may vary.

Ryan Ryan
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Apr 2023
Posts: 656

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

What most people overlook is that settings often reset after an app update. Always double-check your preferences after any major version change.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

Happy to expand on any part of this.

Nicole Nicole
Joined:
Nov 2021
Posts: 508

I've been through this rabbit hole so let me give you a thorough answer.

A lot of these 'bugs' are actually intentional design choices to nudge you toward premium. Knowing that changes how you troubleshoot.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Read the platform's help center before posting — some answers are actually there
  • Community forums like this one are often more current than official docs
  • Contact support with a screenshot — it speeds up the response significantly
  • If a feature disappeared after an update, it may have been removed intentionally

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

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