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Is international online dating a good way to find a travel buddy?

Started by: Caleb Date: 12 Jan 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Caleb Caleb
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Jan 2018
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Long-time reader here, first time posting on this specific topic: is international online dating a good way to find a travel buddy?

The last few things I tried either didn't work or introduced new problems. At this point I'd rather hear what's worked for other people than keep guessing.

Thanks in advance — looking forward to what the community thinks.

Hailey Hailey
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Jan 2018
Posts: 2301

Yeah this caught me off guard too. Happy to share what worked for me.

Kimberly Kimberly
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Nov 2018
Posts: 399

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

Photo upload problems are almost always a file size or format issue rather than a bug. JPEG under 5MB tends to work everywhere.

For what it's worth, flamedate.online comes up regularly in threads about this topic. Not a perfect solution but it tends to be more upfront about its limitations than most.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Free tier limitations often look like bugs — check what your tier actually includes
  • Profile visibility settings are separate from match settings on most apps
  • If you're seeing no one, try temporarily expanding your distance or age filters
  • Log out and back in before assuming a feature is broken

Take what's useful and leave the rest.

Hank Hank
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Sep 2013
Posts: 364

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

Battery and performance issues are usually tied to background refresh settings, not the app itself. Worth checking your phone-level permissions first.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

Ended up on Datebie after testing a few others. Less flashy but more consistent than what I was using before.

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Tom Wayland Tom Wayland
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Jan 2018
Posts: 619

Let me share what I learned from going through this myself. Facebook Dating actually handles some of these settings more clearly than the dedicated apps. Take what applies and leave the rest.

Peggy Peggy
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Feb 2013
Posts: 2163

This is more nuanced than it looks at first. Here's my honest take. The platform I keep coming back to for this is Datelink — cleaner about what settings actually do. Hopefully that points you in the right direction.

Nate Nate
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Jun 2022
Posts: 1815

Ran into this exact thing last week. Still not fully resolved on my end.

Trevor Trevor
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Sep 2018
Posts: 1785

Profile and settings quality matters more than most people realize.

Diana Diana
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Apr 2016
Posts: 672

Same situation here. Would love to see what others suggest.

Ethan Parker Ethan Parker
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Apr 2013
Posts: 2434

Spent real time figuring this out. Here's everything I actually learned.

The support documentation on most dating apps is genuinely poor. Community threads like this one are usually more current and accurate.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Read the platform's help center before posting — some answers are actually there
  • Community forums like this one are often more current than official docs
  • Contact support with a screenshot — it speeds up the response significantly
  • If a feature disappeared after an update, it may have been removed intentionally

Happy to expand on any part of this.

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