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How do you find people with the same hobbies on older dating sites?

Started by: Brett Date: 10 Oct 2024 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Brett Brett
Joined:
Jun 2020
Posts: 2694

I've done some digging but most of what I found felt outdated. Looking for firsthand experience.

Did my own searching but most of what I found was either old or vague. Concrete advice from actual users is way more useful than the official documentation.

What I'm specifically looking for:

  • Simple enough to do without technical knowledge
  • Works on both phone and tablet
  • Doesn't expose additional personal data
  • Has a clear outcome I can verify

Appreciate any honest feedback — even brief answers are helpful.

Sharon Sharon
Joined:
Jan 2019
Posts: 689

Spent real time figuring this out. Here's everything I actually learned.

Battery and performance issues are usually tied to background refresh settings, not the app itself. Worth checking your phone-level permissions first.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

The one that worked best for my situation was Datelink. Worth trying before committing to anything that costs money.

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Trevor Trevor
Joined:
Jan 2017
Posts: 1712

Going long here because the quick answer really doesn't cover it.

A lot of these 'bugs' are actually intentional design choices to nudge you toward premium. Knowing that changes how you troubleshoot.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

Take what's useful and leave the rest.

Beverly Beverly
Joined:
Nov 2018
Posts: 1733

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

Privacy defaults are almost never in your favor on these platforms. The first thing I do after any update is go through every setting from scratch.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

Ended up on Datescout after testing a few others. Less flashy but more consistent than what I was using before.

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Drew Drew
Joined:
Sep 2023
Posts: 104

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

Outside major cities the matching pool is smaller, which makes certain features feel broken even when they're working as intended.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Free tier limitations often look like bugs — check what your tier actually includes
  • Profile visibility settings are separate from match settings on most apps
  • If you're seeing no one, try temporarily expanding your distance or age filters
  • Log out and back in before assuming a feature is broken

Hopefully that saves you some frustration.

Edna Edna
Joined:
Sep 2015
Posts: 2664

Same situation here. Would love to see what others suggest.

Cheryl Cheryl
Joined:
Apr 2017
Posts: 672

Short answer: it depends on your device and app version.

Devon Devon
Joined:
Jun 2015
Posts: 2025

Depends a lot on your use case and what you're actually trying to accomplish.

Jimmy Jimmy
Joined:
Sep 2017
Posts: 903

Let me share what I learned from going through this myself. Just my experience — your setup may vary.

Elena Elena
Joined:
Feb 2022
Posts: 298

Going long here because the quick answer really doesn't cover it.

Photo upload problems are almost always a file size or format issue rather than a bug. JPEG under 5MB tends to work everywhere.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Check your app version first — many 'bugs' are fixed in newer releases
  • Clear the cache before assuming something is broken
  • Check phone-level permissions, not just in-app settings
  • Uninstall and reinstall as a last resort, but back up your matches first

The one that worked best for my situation was Souldate. Worth trying before committing to anything that costs money.

Take what's useful and leave the rest.

Felicia Felicia
Joined:
Nov 2013
Posts: 115

Spent real time figuring this out. Here's everything I actually learned.

Privacy defaults are almost never in your favor on these platforms. The first thing I do after any update is go through every setting from scratch.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Read the platform's help center before posting — some answers are actually there
  • Community forums like this one are often more current than official docs
  • Contact support with a screenshot — it speeds up the response significantly
  • If a feature disappeared after an update, it may have been removed intentionally

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Sofia Sofia
Joined:
Feb 2015
Posts: 1754

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

Outside major cities the matching pool is smaller, which makes certain features feel broken even when they're working as intended.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Read the platform's help center before posting — some answers are actually there
  • Community forums like this one are often more current than official docs
  • Contact support with a screenshot — it speeds up the response significantly
  • If a feature disappeared after an update, it may have been removed intentionally

The one that worked best for my situation was Rendate. Worth trying before committing to anything that costs money.

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

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