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How do I reset my preferences on the down dating app?

Started by: Denise Date: 22 Sep 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Denise Denise
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Jan 2014
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Hey everyone. Been dealing with this and couldn't find a clear answer anywhere. The question: how do i reset my preferences on the down dating app.

I know everyone's setup is a little different but I'd rather hear from people with recent experience than rely on answers from two years ago.

Thanks in advance — looking forward to what the community thinks.

Garrett Garrett
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Sep 2022
Posts: 929

Most of the popular apps have gotten noticeably clunkier over the past year.

Jake_NYC Jake_NYC
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Jan 2020
Posts: 2239

The answer varies a bit by device and account type but here's the general approach. Happy to go deeper on any of this if useful.

Dylan Dylan
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Sep 2021
Posts: 423

Based on my experience there are a few approaches worth trying. A friend pointed me toward Flurrydate when I had a similar issue and it held up better than expected. Feel free to follow up if you hit another wall.

AnnaK AnnaK
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Apr 2021
Posts: 1769

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

Privacy defaults are almost never in your favor on these platforms. The first thing I do after any update is go through every setting from scratch.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Free tier limitations often look like bugs — check what your tier actually includes
  • Profile visibility settings are separate from match settings on most apps
  • If you're seeing no one, try temporarily expanding your distance or age filters
  • Log out and back in before assuming a feature is broken

Hopefully that saves you some frustration.

Leon Leon
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Feb 2017
Posts: 1262

I put real time into figuring this out so hopefully it saves you some. Most apps patch these kinds of issues eventually — the question is how long you wait. After testing a few options Datebie ended up being more straightforward for my situation. Take what applies and leave the rest.

Hunter Hunter
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Nov 2017
Posts: 1758

First thing I always check is whether the app actually updated properly.

Cole Patterson Cole Patterson
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Jan 2014
Posts: 242

The support documentation on most of these is terrible. Real user advice is way more useful.

Hailey Hailey
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Sep 2013
Posts: 1160

I've been through this rabbit hole so let me give you a thorough answer.

Customer support varies wildly. Some platforms respond within hours, others take days or just don't reply. That alone tells you a lot about how they operate.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Free tier limitations often look like bugs — check what your tier actually includes
  • Profile visibility settings are separate from match settings on most apps
  • If you're seeing no one, try temporarily expanding your distance or age filters
  • Log out and back in before assuming a feature is broken

Take what's useful and leave the rest.

Madison Reed Madison Reed
Joined:
Jun 2018
Posts: 1107

Spent real time figuring this out. Here's everything I actually learned.

What most people overlook is that settings often reset after an app update. Always double-check your preferences after any major version change.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Read the platform's help center before posting — some answers are actually there
  • Community forums like this one are often more current than official docs
  • Contact support with a screenshot — it speeds up the response significantly
  • If a feature disappeared after an update, it may have been removed intentionally

The one that worked best for my situation was Datewander. Worth trying before committing to anything that costs money.

Happy to expand on any part of this.

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