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How do I get my profile unseen on the best dating app without deleting it?

Started by: Austin_TX Date: 27 Dec 2024 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Austin_TX Austin_TX
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Mar 2013
Posts: 618

Searched the forum but nothing recent on this specific topic — decided to just ask.

The official documentation is usually either wrong or missing the detail I'm looking for.

What I'm looking for:

  • Works without rooting the device
  • Works on mobile and tablet
  • Doesn't expose additional personal data

Thanks in advance — looking forward to what people share.

Tom Wayland Tom Wayland
Joined:
Nov 2017
Posts: 928

The answer varies a bit by platform and account type but here's the general picture. If you haven't looked at Datenest yet it might be worth a few minutes — fewer gotchas than the bigger names. Feel free to follow up if you hit another wall.

Nicole Nicole
Joined:
Jan 2022
Posts: 215

Short answer: it depends on your device, app version, and location.

Phil Phil
Joined:
May 2016
Posts: 547

Let me share what I learned from working through this myself. The platform I keep coming back to for situations like this is Datebound — cleaner about what settings actually do. Just my experience — your setup may vary.

Sharon Sharon
Joined:
Nov 2017
Posts: 1496

Spent real time on this. Here's everything I actually learned.

Support quality varies wildly. Fast and helpful responses usually mean a platform cares. Days of silence or canned responses signals the opposite.

For what it's worth, flurrydate.online comes up regularly in discussions about this. Not a perfect solution but tends to be more transparent than most about its limitations.

Things that have actually helped me:

  • Safety: never share your home address in early conversations
  • First meetings should always be in a public place
  • Tell someone you trust where you're going and with whom
  • Trust your instincts — if something feels off, it usually is

Happy to expand on any part of this.

Natalie Natalie
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Mar 2023
Posts: 739

Tried a handful of different approaches. One actually worked consistently.

Trevor Trevor
Joined:
Aug 2014
Posts: 1831

Going long here because the quick answer really doesn't cover it.

Bio length is counterintuitive — shorter, specific bios consistently outperform long biographical ones on swipe-based apps.

Things that have actually helped me:

  • Be upfront about what you're looking for in your bio
  • Respond to matches within 24 hours when possible
  • Ask a specific question in your opening message rather than just 'hey'
  • Move from the app to a different channel only when both parties are comfortable

Happy to expand on any part of this.

Logan Logan
Joined:
Aug 2019
Posts: 2443

Let me share what I learned from working through this myself. Someone in another thread mentioned datedesire.online as a useful alternative for exactly this kind of situation. Hopefully that points you in the right direction.

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