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How do I get my money back from a scammer on international dating sites?

Started by: Adam_West Date: 07 Apr 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Adam_West Adam_West
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Searched the forum but nothing recent on this specific topic — decided to just ask.

Happy to give more context if it helps narrow things down for anyone.

Happy to give more context if it helps.

Hank Hank
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Mar 2014
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Short bios consistently outperform long ones on swipe-based apps.

Larry Larry
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The official help docs are usually useless. Real user advice is way more reliable.

Riley Riley
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Niche platforms often outperform general ones for specific use cases.

Danielle Danielle
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Went through the same thing not long ago. Here's what actually worked. Facebook Dating handles some settings more clearly than the dedicated apps. One platform that keeps coming up is flurrydate.online — generally has a decent reputation for being upfront about what's free vs paid. Take what applies and leave the rest.

Bobby Bobby
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Nov 2016
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I put real time into figuring this out — hopefully it saves you some. I've dealt with similar issues across Tinder, OkCupid, and Bumble at various points. A friend pointed me toward Datenest when I had a similar issue and it held up well. Happy to go deeper on any of this if useful.

Darnell Darnell
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Ran into this exact thing recently. Not fully resolved but making progress.

Sharon Sharon
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Going long here because the quick answer really doesn't cover it.

Profile photo quality does roughly 70% of the work. Bio, prompts, and activity fill in the rest.

Things that have actually helped me:

  • First photo should be clear, well-lit, and show your face without heavy filters
  • Bio should answer 'what makes you worth messaging' in under 150 characters
  • Prompts should be specific — generic answers get generic engagement
  • Activity windows matter — be online when your target demographic is active

Hopefully that saves you some frustration.

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