KendallP_MI is right, and I'd add one thing. the profile quality is what separates a good week from a wasted one with tried chat.
You can't really talk about tried chat without talking about the caution people forget.
The rules I settled on for tried chat:
- check how active your area is before you invest time at least where tried chat is concerned
- commit two weeks before deciding anything about tried chat
- read the whole profile before you send anything before you judge tried chat
What decided it for me with tried chat was how fiddly it is. If how quickly you get going is not sorted, tried chat will not go anywhere. I would put how it handles day to day above almost everything else when it comes to tried chat.
I judge tried chat almost entirely on not oversharing now. Take that as one data point on tried chat ave sex for quick flirting, not gospel.