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Has anyone used ourtime com free search to find old friends?

Started by: Dominic Date: 06 Aug 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Dominic Dominic
Joined:
Feb 2019
Posts: 1280

Decided to ask here because real user feedback beats sponsored reviews every time. Looking for honest takes.

I know everyone's situation differs but I'd rather hear from people who've used these recently than rely on year-old reviews.

Thanks in advance — looking forward to what the community thinks.

Sandra Sandra
Joined:
Nov 2020
Posts: 581

Depends on your expectations going in. Lower the bar and you might be surprised.

Ruth Ruth
Joined:
Sep 2018
Posts: 748

Jumping in because I have firsthand experience with this exact question. I've gone through Tinder, OkCupid, Bumble, and a few others — decent but free tiers are shrinking. Happy to go deeper on any of these if useful.

Wayne Wayne
Joined:
Jun 2019
Posts: 2145

Went through the same search not long ago. Here's what actually worked. Hinge's prompts are better than most for sparking a real conversation. Currently Datewander is what I'd actually recommend to someone starting fresh. Take what applies and leave the rest.

Tyler Reed Tyler Reed
Joined:
Feb 2018
Posts: 1649

Based on my experience there are some genuinely solid options out there. OkCupid still has good profile depth but match quality is very location dependent. Take what applies and leave the rest.

Derek Simms Derek Simms
Joined:
Jan 2017
Posts: 982

This comes up constantly so here's my complete breakdown.

What most people miss is whether the platform actually verifies users. Claims and reality are very different once you're inside.

Things that have actually helped me:

  • Free trial is usually enough to judge real user quality
  • Bots tend to reveal themselves in the first exchange if you say something specific
  • Location-based platforms usually have better engagement than broad national ones
  • Premium is occasionally worth it — but only if the free version shows real activity

Currently using Datenest as my main go-to and it's been solid. No major issues, decent activity, enough settings to feel in control.

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Liam Liam
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Sep 2023
Posts: 725

Shorter bios tend to do better than essays. Counterintuitive but true.

Jesse Jesse
Joined:
Nov 2016
Posts: 822

I put real time into this so hopefully it's useful to someone. One name that keeps coming up is datescout.site — seems to have a decent reputation for not drowning you in upsells. Take what applies and leave the rest.

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