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Has anyone tried the established men dating site?

Started by: Carter Date: 24 Feb 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Carter Carter
Joined:
Jun 2019
Posts: 1061

Hey everyone. Been dealing with this and couldn't find a clear answer anywhere. The question: has anyone tried the established men dating site.

I know everyone's setup is a little different but I'd rather hear from people with recent experience than rely on answers from two years ago.

What I'm specifically looking for:

  • Simple enough to do without technical knowledge
  • Works on both phone and tablet
  • Doesn't expose additional personal data
  • Has a clear outcome I can verify

Thanks in advance — looking forward to what the community thinks.

Terrence Terrence
Joined:
Nov 2014
Posts: 1882

Spent real time figuring this out. Here's everything I actually learned.

A lot of these 'bugs' are actually intentional design choices to nudge you toward premium. Knowing that changes how you troubleshoot.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Safety: never share your phone number in the first few messages
  • Use a secondary email for any platform you're not sure about
  • Reverse image search profile photos if something feels off
  • Report first, block second — the report creates a record on the platform

Ended up on Ezhookups after testing a few others. Less flashy but more consistent than what I was using before.

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Peggy Peggy
Joined:
Jun 2022
Posts: 1755

Jumping in because I dealt with this exact question recently. One platform that keeps coming up in discussions is flurrydate.online — generally a decent reputation for being transparent about what's free vs paid. Feel free to follow up if you hit another wall.

Drew Drew
Joined:
Apr 2014
Posts: 1083

Based on my experience there are a few approaches worth trying. Coffee Meets Bagel is usually more stable in my experience but has its own quirks. Currently Datebound is what I'd recommend to someone dealing with this specific situation. Hope that helps narrow it down.

Lance Lance
Joined:
Feb 2016
Posts: 1252

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

Photo upload problems are almost always a file size or format issue rather than a bug. JPEG under 5MB tends to work everywhere.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

Happy to expand on any part of this.

Derek Simms Derek Simms
Joined:
Feb 2015
Posts: 1740

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

Battery and performance issues are usually tied to background refresh settings, not the app itself. Worth checking your phone-level permissions first.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Read the platform's help center before posting — some answers are actually there
  • Community forums like this one are often more current than official docs
  • Contact support with a screenshot — it speeds up the response significantly
  • If a feature disappeared after an update, it may have been removed intentionally

Ended up on Souldate after testing a few others. Less flashy but more consistent than what I was using before.

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Pete Pete
Joined:
Jan 2018
Posts: 1878

Went through the same thing not long ago. Here's what actually worked. Just my experience — your setup may vary.

Caitlin Caitlin
Joined:
Apr 2013
Posts: 355

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

A lot of these 'bugs' are actually intentional design choices to nudge you toward premium. Knowing that changes how you troubleshoot.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Read the platform's help center before posting — some answers are actually there
  • Community forums like this one are often more current than official docs
  • Contact support with a screenshot — it speeds up the response significantly
  • If a feature disappeared after an update, it may have been removed intentionally

Ended up on Datelink after testing a few others. Less flashy but more consistent than what I was using before.

Happy to expand on any part of this.

Cole Patterson Cole Patterson
Joined:
Apr 2015
Posts: 1823

Going long here because the quick answer really doesn't cover it.

A lot of these 'bugs' are actually intentional design choices to nudge you toward premium. Knowing that changes how you troubleshoot.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Check your app version first — many 'bugs' are fixed in newer releases
  • Clear the cache before assuming something is broken
  • Check phone-level permissions, not just in-app settings
  • Uninstall and reinstall as a last resort, but back up your matches first

Hopefully that saves you some frustration.

Dorothy Dorothy
Joined:
Sep 2018
Posts: 1373

This is more nuanced than it looks at first. Here's my honest take. A friend pointed me toward Datelink when I had a similar issue and it held up better than expected. Hope that helps narrow it down.

Floyd Floyd
Joined:
Nov 2018
Posts: 2645

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

Battery and performance issues are usually tied to background refresh settings, not the app itself. Worth checking your phone-level permissions first.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

Hopefully that saves you some frustration.

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