Happy to give you what I know about joined the hookupers community recently. Once I stopped worrying about the fake-account issue, joined hookupers got a lot simpler. The honest tradeoff with joined hookupers are how fiddly it's against convenience.
What I actually do about joined hookupers:
- treat an empty profile as a pass while you are testing joined hookupers
- write like a person rather than a job listing specifically for joined hookupers
- give it a solid month before deciding anything about joined hookupers
- fill the profile out properly, not half way when it comes to joined hookupers
The trust question matters more for joined hookupers than any feature list. The honest tradeoff with joined hookupers are the signal-to-noise ratio against convenience.
That is the short version of joined the hookupers community recently; ask if you want detail.
I still keep an account on the Datedesire approach purely for joined hookupers.