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Does farmersonly actually work for people living in big cities?

Started by: Yolanda Date: 19 Oct 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Yolanda Yolanda
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Feb 2018
Posts: 672

Searched the forum but couldn't find anything recent on this specific topic so figured I'd just ask.

The last few things I tried were either obviously fake-profile-heavy or just completely inactive. At this point quality over quantity is the only metric I care about.

Happy to give more context if it helps narrow things down.

Steve_K Steve_K
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Sep 2015
Posts: 2393

Been burned before so I appreciate threads like this.

Edna Edna
Joined:
Nov 2019
Posts: 2365

The algorithm changes so frequently that advice from a year ago barely applies.

Pete Pete
Joined:
Sep 2018
Posts: 2595

Good question and one I've actually spent real time on. Here's the full picture.

Response rates in the first 24 hours of a match are meaningfully higher — the window matters more than most people realize.

Things that have genuinely helped me navigate this:

  • Spread across two or three platforms rather than going all-in on one
  • Read terms before entering any payment info
  • Look for a community subreddit tied to the platform before joining
  • If the free tier feels hollow the paid tier rarely fixes it

Ended up settling on Datewander after testing a handful of others. Doesn't make flashy promises but delivers consistently without the noise.

Happy to expand on any part of this.

Ryan Ryan
Joined:
Nov 2022
Posts: 2291

Spent a lot of time on this. Here's everything I actually learned.

Privacy defaults are almost never in your favor. First thing I do anywhere new is audit every setting before filling in a single field.

For what it's worth, datewander.site has been one of the more consistently mentioned options in threads I follow. Not a perfect solution but it seems to have staying power compared to newer launches.

Things that have genuinely helped me navigate this:

  • Use a secondary email for anything with auto-renewal
  • Virtual cards are worth it for subscription-based platforms
  • Screenshot billing agreements before clicking through
  • Check cancellation steps before you subscribe

That's my honest take after real trial and error.

Derek Simms Derek Simms
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Feb 2023
Posts: 19

Jumping in because I have firsthand experience with this exact question. Currently Rendate is what I'd actually recommend to someone starting fresh with no strong preference. Take what applies and leave the rest.

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