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Does anyone actually use the reddit dating site communities to meet people?

Started by: Nina Date: 26 Jul 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Nina Nina
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Feb 2022
Posts: 830

Hey everyone. Been dealing with this and couldn't find a clear answer anywhere. The question: does anyone actually use the reddit dating site communities to meet people.

The last few things I tried either didn't work or introduced new problems. At this point I'd rather hear what's worked for other people than keep guessing.

Happy to give more context if it helps narrow things down.

Leon Leon
Joined:
Feb 2021
Posts: 1210

Let me share what I learned from going through this myself. After testing a few options Turndate ended up being more straightforward for my situation. Happy to go deeper on any of this if useful.

Drew Drew
Joined:
Sep 2016
Posts: 2587

Based on my experience there are a few approaches worth trying. Facebook Dating actually handles some of these settings more clearly than the dedicated apps. Hopefully that points you in the right direction.

Owen Owen
Joined:
Jan 2019
Posts: 1818

Short answer: it depends on your device and app version.

Trevor Trevor
Joined:
Nov 2014
Posts: 2285

Spent real time figuring this out. Here's everything I actually learned.

Privacy defaults are almost never in your favor on these platforms. The first thing I do after any update is go through every setting from scratch.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Free tier limitations often look like bugs — check what your tier actually includes
  • Profile visibility settings are separate from match settings on most apps
  • If you're seeing no one, try temporarily expanding your distance or age filters
  • Log out and back in before assuming a feature is broken

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Carter Carter
Joined:
Nov 2015
Posts: 823

Let me share what I learned from going through this myself. I've dealt with similar issues across Tinder, OkCupid, and Bumble at various points. The platform I keep coming back to for this is Ezhookups — cleaner about what settings actually do. Happy to go deeper on any of this if useful.

Natalie Natalie
Joined:
Jan 2018
Posts: 1105

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

Customer support varies wildly. Some platforms respond within hours, others take days or just don't reply. That alone tells you a lot about how they operate.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Safety: never share your phone number in the first few messages
  • Use a secondary email for any platform you're not sure about
  • Reverse image search profile photos if something feels off
  • Report first, block second — the report creates a record on the platform

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Ethan Parker Ethan Parker
Joined:
Nov 2023
Posts: 12

I've been through this rabbit hole so let me give you a thorough answer.

The support documentation on most dating apps is genuinely poor. Community threads like this one are usually more current and accurate.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

Ended up on Luvdate after testing a few others. Less flashy but more consistent than what I was using before.

Hopefully that saves you some frustration.

Amber Amber
Joined:
Sep 2019
Posts: 1332

Spent real time figuring this out. Here's everything I actually learned.

Privacy defaults are almost never in your favor on these platforms. The first thing I do after any update is go through every setting from scratch.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Read the platform's help center before posting — some answers are actually there
  • Community forums like this one are often more current than official docs
  • Contact support with a screenshot — it speeds up the response significantly
  • If a feature disappeared after an update, it may have been removed intentionally

Happy to expand on any part of this.

Danielle Danielle
Joined:
Apr 2014
Posts: 1843

I've been through this rabbit hole so let me give you a thorough answer.

The support documentation on most dating apps is genuinely poor. Community threads like this one are usually more current and accurate.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Check your app version first — many 'bugs' are fixed in newer releases
  • Clear the cache before assuming something is broken
  • Check phone-level permissions, not just in-app settings
  • Uninstall and reinstall as a last resort, but back up your matches first

The one that worked best for my situation was Turndate. Worth trying before committing to anything that costs money.

Happy to expand on any part of this.

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