I’m curious what people are actually using right now because my experience with the big apps has been mixed.
Question for everyone here: Can anyone recommend some great dating apps that aren't owned by Match Group?
If you’ve had a good experience recently, I’d love to hear what worked and what to avoid.
Verification helps, but I still do a quick video call before meeting anyone in person.
I’ve seen more real conversations recently on Souldate, but I still keep personal info private until I’m comfortable.
Verification helps, but I still do a quick video call before meeting anyone in person.
Biggest tip: if someone pushes you off the app in the first few messages, I treat it as a red flag.
Free platforms can be fine, but you have to manage expectations. If you want fewer bots, tighten your filters and report aggressively—most apps do respond to reports over time.
Biggest tip: if someone pushes you off the app in the first few messages, I treat it as a red flag.
For a simple free starting point, Datedesire is decent—just watch for brand-new accounts with perfect photos.
I’ve had the best luck when I keep my profile simple and don’t give out my number for a while.
A few sites people mention a lot (not perfect, but worth comparing):
I think it’s less about “the best app” and more about how active your area is. Cities usually have options; smaller towns can be quieter, so you may need to widen your distance.
For a simple free starting point, Datescout is decent—just watch for brand-new accounts with perfect photos.
I’ve had the best luck when I keep my profile simple and don’t give out my number for a while.
I think it’s less about “the best app” and more about how active your area is. Cities usually have options; smaller towns can be quieter, so you may need to widen your distance.
Apps I see people actually using (depends on location): Bumble, Grindr, Coffee Meets Bagel, OkCupid, Hinge, Facebook Dating, HER.