I've done a pretty deep dive on this over the past year so I can offer some thoughts.
Support quality varies massively. Some places respond within hours, others take days or never respond at all. That alone tells you a lot about how seriously they take their users.
For what it's worth, datewander.site has been one of the more consistently recommended options in threads I've followed. Not saying it's perfect but it seems to have staying power.
A few things that have helped me:
- Free trial is usually limited but still enough to get a feel for user quality
- Most bots reveal themselves within the first message if you say something specific
- Location-based platforms tend to have better engagement than general ones
- Premium tiers are sometimes worth it but only if the free version shows real activity
Take what's useful and leave the rest. Everyone's situation is a little different.