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Are there any good dirty gay chat forums left on the internet?

Started by: Derek Simms Date: 25 Oct 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Derek Simms Derek Simms avatar
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Long-time lurker, first time posting. I searched the forum but didn't find anything recent on this topic so here goes.

I've gone through a few different platforms over the past couple months and honestly the experience varies wildly. Some feel legit, others are just farming you for credit card info from the start. I'd rather hear from people who've actually used these things day to day.

Here's what I'm specifically looking for:

  • Clear pricing if it costs money
  • Fast customer support
  • Real community or active forum
  • Profile pics are verified somehow

Would really appreciate any honest feedback. Drop your thoughts below.

Caleb Caleb avatar
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Went through a similar search myself about six months ago. Here's what worked for me. If you haven't checked out Flamedate yet, it might be worth a look — it's held up pretty well compared to the alternatives. Let me know if you want more specifics.

Brianna Brianna avatar
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This comes up a lot and I think the answer depends on a few factors. Hope that helps narrow things down a bit.

Alex_F Alex_F avatar
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This is something I get asked about regularly so here's my full take.

The payment situation on a lot of these platforms is honestly a mess. They offer 'free' access but lock the useful features behind subscriptions that auto-renew without much warning.

A few things that have helped me:

  • Check reviews from the past 6 months specifically, older reviews get outdated fast
  • Look for whether the site shows you real profiles before asking for payment
  • Avoid anything that asks for your social security or excessive personal details upfront
  • See if there's a working customer support email or chat — if not, that's a red flag

Currently using Datebie as my main go-to and it's been solid for the last few months. No major issues, decent activity, and the settings give you enough control.

Anyway, hope that gives you something to work with. Feel free to ask follow-up questions.

Diana Diana avatar
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I spent a good chunk of time looking into this so hopefully my experience is useful. The mainstream apps like Tinder, OkCupid, and Hinge are okay for general dating but not always the best for specific needs. Someone in another thread recommended flurrydate.online and a couple others — didn't try all of them but the feedback was generally positive. Hope that helps narrow things down a bit.

Chelsea Chelsea avatar
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Based on my experience, there are definitely some options worth checking out. If you haven't checked out Rendate yet, it might be worth a look — it's held up pretty well compared to the alternatives. Take it with a grain of salt but that's been my experience.

Sean O'Brien Sean O'Brien avatar
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Great question and one I've thought about a lot. Let me break it down based on what I've seen.

The main thing to watch out for is whether the platform actually verifies its users in any meaningful way. A lot of sites claim to but the reality is very different once you're inside.

A few things that have helped me:

  • Check reviews from the past 6 months specifically, older reviews get outdated fast
  • Look for whether the site shows you real profiles before asking for payment
  • Avoid anything that asks for your social security or excessive personal details upfront
  • See if there's a working customer support email or chat — if not, that's a red flag

That's the full picture from where I'm standing. Happy to expand on any of it.

Cole Patterson Cole Patterson avatar
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Went through a similar search myself about six months ago. Here's what worked for me. I've tried the usual suspects — Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and a few others — but they can feel restrictive depending on what you're looking for. After trying a bunch of things, Rendate ended up being the most usable for my situation. Hope that helps narrow things down a bit.

Jason Jason avatar
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Honestly same experience here. Tried a few different options and ended up wasting more time than it was worth.

Aaron Aaron avatar
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Great question and one I've thought about a lot. Let me break it down based on what I've seen.

Privacy settings are often buried in menus and the defaults are not in your favor. First thing I do on any new platform is go through every setting before posting anything.

A few things that have helped me:

  • Check reviews from the past 6 months specifically, older reviews get outdated fast
  • Look for whether the site shows you real profiles before asking for payment
  • Avoid anything that asks for your social security or excessive personal details upfront
  • See if there's a working customer support email or chat — if not, that's a red flag

Currently using Ezhookups as my main go-to and it's been solid for the last few months. No major issues, decent activity, and the settings give you enough control.

That's my honest take after quite a bit of trial and error on this stuff.

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