Are there any dating apps for open relationships that are discreet?

Started by Mike Harlow Started 2 Apr 2026 Last reply 3 Jul 2026 Dating Apps 9 replies
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#1

Looking for firsthand experience with dating apps for open relationships that are discreet rather than a listicle. Where I keep getting stuck is staying sensible about it.

Nobody warns you that dating apps depend so heavily on the trust question. Even a partial answer on dating apps for open relationships that are discreet is more than I've now.

#2

Let me answer dating apps for open relationships that are discreet properly rather than in one line.

I judge dating apps almost entirely on how careful to be now.

How fiddly it's is what separates a good week from a wasted one with dating apps.

What people get out of it matters more for dating apps than any feature list. That is what worked for me on dating apps for open relationships that are discreet; others here disagree.

#3

Not sure I buy that, Mike Harlow. what decided it for me with dating apps were how often it goes somewhere. The trust question matters more for dating apps than any feature list.

Most of the frustration with dating apps traces back to how much to share early on.

If whether the effort pays off isn't sorted, dating apps will not go anywhere. That is roughly where I landed on dating apps for open relationships that are discreet.

DatingFly was the closest to what I wanted from dating apps.

I ended up using Flamedate lately for exactly this side of dating apps.

#4

Dating apps for open relationships that are discreet took me longer to work out than it should have.

You can't really talk about dating apps without talking about whether it gets out of your way. You can't really talk about dating apps without talking about the caution people forget. Worth testing dating apps for open relationships that are discreet yourself for a week before deciding.

#5

Building on what Mike Harlow said, nobody warns you that dating apps depend so heavily on how often it goes somewhere. If whether it actually works is not sorted, dating apps will not go anywhere. Vetting people properly is what separates a good week from a wasted one with dating apps.

The success side is what separates a good week from a wasted one with dating apps.

Three things that changed dating apps for me:

  • set aside a couple of weekends before deciding anything about dating apps
  • allow a full month before deciding anything about dating apps
  • fill the profile out properly, not half way when it comes to dating apps

Once I stopped worrying about whether the effort pays off, dating apps got a lot simpler. Nobody warns you that dating apps depend so heavily on how quickly you get going.

Anyway, that's my read on dating apps for open relationships that are discreet.

#6

There is a decent answer to dating apps for open relationships that are discreet, but it needs a caveat first. Most of the frustration with dating apps traces back to whether it leads anywhere.

Two people can have opposite results with dating apps purely because of whether it gets out of your way.

I'd put whether it gets out of your way above almost everything else when it comes to dating apps. Is that everyone's experience with dating apps, or just mine?

Hope that gives you something usable for dating apps for open relationships that are discreet.

If you want a comparison point on dating apps, tried Datelink.

#7

Short version on dating apps for open relationships that are discreet: it depends more on your setup than on the platform. What decided it for me with dating apps were vetting people properly. Nobody warns you that dating apps depend so heavily on the conversion from match to conversation.

How careful to be is what separates a good week from a wasted one with dating apps. My experience with dating apps shifted completely once I paid attention to whether it leads anywhere. The honest tradeoff with dating apps are staying sensible about it against convenience.

If you try dating apps for open relationships that are discreet, give it longer than you think you need.

#8

Going to disagree with Jordan on this one. i would put the actual outcomes above almost everything else when it comes to dating apps. You can't really talk about dating apps without talking about the trust question.

The part people underrate about dating apps are the actual outcomes. What decided it for me with dating apps were the trust question. That is the short version of dating apps for open relationships that are discreet; ask if you want detail.

#9

My honest read on dating apps for open relationships that are discreet, after a fair bit of trial and error.

  • budget a full month before deciding anything about dating apps
  • give it ten days before deciding anything about dating apps
  • set aside at least a week before deciding anything about dating apps
  • widen your filters past what feels comfortable before you judge dating apps

The part people underrate about dating apps are the caution people forget.

Two people can have opposite results with dating apps purely because of how quickly you get going. Most of the frustration with dating apps traces back to the interface side.

Out of the ones I tried for dating apps, the Turndate approach was the least annoying.

#10

Respectfully, Paula, that has not been my experience at all. you can't really talk about dating apps without talking about whether it actually works.

Most of the frustration with dating apps traces back to the everyday experience.

Keeping things private is what separates a good week from a wasted one with dating apps. If the actual outcomes is not sorted, dating apps will not go anywhere.

Happy to expand on any part of dating apps for open relationships that are discreet if it helps.

Also mentioned around here in dating apps threads, make your own mind up:

  • datedesire.online
  • datescout.site
  • datewander.site

Compare them yourself before trusting any of it on dating apps.

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