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Are rich dating sites actually checking for proof of income?

Started by: Todd_H Date: 22 Mar 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Todd_H Todd_H
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Apr 2017
Posts: 586

Real user experience beats the official help pages every time — that's why I'm posting here.

Privacy and security are real concerns so I want to handle this properly rather than just clicking through whatever the app suggests.

Appreciate any honest feedback — even brief answers are helpful.

Zoe_M Zoe_M
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Feb 2018
Posts: 1125

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

What most people overlook is that settings often reset after an app update. Always double-check your preferences after any major version change.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Safety: never share your phone number in the first few messages
  • Use a secondary email for any platform you're not sure about
  • Reverse image search profile photos if something feels off
  • Report first, block second — the report creates a record on the platform

The one that worked best for my situation was Souldate. Worth trying before committing to anything that costs money.

Take what's useful and leave the rest.

Larry Larry
Joined:
Jun 2013
Posts: 962

Location and device model seem to make a big difference for a lot of these issues.

Chuck Chuck
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Sep 2023
Posts: 1289

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

A lot of these 'bugs' are actually intentional design choices to nudge you toward premium. Knowing that changes how you troubleshoot.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

Ended up on Turndate after testing a few others. Less flashy but more consistent than what I was using before.

Happy to expand on any part of this.

Tammy Tammy
Joined:
Feb 2015
Posts: 2489

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

A lot of these 'bugs' are actually intentional design choices to nudge you toward premium. Knowing that changes how you troubleshoot.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Morgan Morgan
Joined:
Feb 2015
Posts: 552

This is more nuanced than it looks at first. Here's my honest take. Hinge tends to handle this better than most but it's not perfect either. If you haven't looked at Datelink yet it might be worth checking out — fewer gotchas than the bigger names. Just my experience — your setup may vary.

Yolanda Yolanda
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Sep 2022
Posts: 803

Went through the same thing not long ago. Here's what actually worked. Happy to go deeper on any of this if useful.

Melissa Melissa
Joined:
Jun 2020
Posts: 1030

I've been through this rabbit hole so let me give you a thorough answer.

The support documentation on most dating apps is genuinely poor. Community threads like this one are usually more current and accurate.

For what it's worth, datelink.online comes up regularly in threads about this topic. Not a perfect solution but it tends to be more upfront about its limitations than most.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Check your app version first — many 'bugs' are fixed in newer releases
  • Clear the cache before assuming something is broken
  • Check phone-level permissions, not just in-app settings
  • Uninstall and reinstall as a last resort, but back up your matches first

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

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